Infidelity and Betrayal
“An affair will redefine a relationship AND every couple with determine what the legacy of the affair will be.”
A best-selling author and psychotherapist. Esther Perel is highly regarded as well as widely recognized as an expert on relationships
A betrayal or infidelity can rob you of your very identity. You no longer feel you know who you or your partner are. The betrayed partner may experience a vast array of intense emotions. You may no longer feel safe, secure, significant, or valued. Your days may become hijacked with ruminations and obsessions that can trigger anger, rage, confusion, numbness, fears, and profound sadness. This is a very traumatic experience, and the symptoms can look very much like Post Traumatic.
Stress Disorder (PTSD):
Persistent negative emotional state (fear, horror, anger, guilt, shame)
Diminished interest or participation in significant activities
Feeling of detachment or estrangement from others
Angry outbursts and irritability
Reckless or destructive behavior
Hypervigilance
Problems with concentration
Inability to sleep
As the partner has betrayed the trust, there may be overwhelming feelings of shame, guilt, confusion, remorse, loss, sadness, and fear.
Our therapy with begin with providing a safe place to begin exploring questions you may have, such as:
Are my feelings normal?
Should I stay or leave?
Can this marriage be saved?
How can we rebuild trust?
Will I be able to forgive?
Will I be forgiven?
Can your relationship be saved? Yes, it is possible; with your commitment and motivation coupled with my relationship expertise, you can acquire skills and perspective that can support you through this shattering crisis to begin the healing process and build a healthier, more intimate relationship.
You can begin to feel greater calm and balance in your life. Call me at 707-637-6020 for a complimentary phone consultation, or click below to schedule an appointment.